Rambling….
This is a theory I haven’t applied and I don’t intend to apply. I am happily married to the most wonderful man on Earth! And while I was probably one of the lucky ones to find the man with whom I will spend all my years from now on and knew that from our first dates :), there are so many people around me who just cannot seem to find the right person. And I’m just thinking that maybe in some cases there just isn’t the right one…
If we think about it, marriage, wedding and even the whole monogamy thing are just enforced upon us from early childhood by our parents, relatives, society in general. There isn’t actually anyone who can prove that after some point in your life you can be monogamous and spend the rest of your life with that one person – man or woman...
Maybe people weren’t supposed to function like that. And maybe the whole procreation thing wasn’t supposed to be like that. If you think about it, animals mate in general with several partners along their lives and have children with several partners. Maybe people should function the same way. There shouldn’t be one person you should look for but more along your whole life. You shouldn’t have children with only one man/woman but with many – along the life, not at the same time of course…
From a Darwinist point of view this could mean evolution. More genes will cross as you have children with more partners thus more chance for evolution!
So maybe, all those screwed up marriages are not as fucked up as they might seem but just the way things should work towards evolution. And if your parents don’t live together anymore and have other children, maybe this is the way things should be as well and you should be glad you are as unique as you can be. And maybe if it seems that you cannot find the right one, then maybe you should accept the idea that it’s all about the moment, there is a right one at this moment, but no one can guarantee that it will be the right one in 7 years… Of course this doesn’t mean that you can make all kinds of compromises just because you only think about the present and accept anyone… But Forever is such a hard word…
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